Wednesday, July 22, 2015

End Conflict: Stop Feeding the Fire (Proverbs 26)

What is the most foolish argument you've had in the past month? How did it begin? How did it end?
Think about the person with whom you argue more than anyone else. Why do you think this happens?
Why do you think many arguments eventually lead to people gossiping about each other?
Where are you most likely to be when you hear gossip? Why do you think that's true?
How have relationships in your life suffered because of arguments or gossip?
Read Proverbs 26:20. Rewrite the verse in your own words.
How does this verse suggest you can bring an end to arguments and gossip? Is this a reasonable solution? Why or why not?
How would your life be better if you cut in half the number of arguments or quarrels you have?
What damaged relationship(s) would you like to see restored? Could this proverb help you end the fighting and bring restoration?
Sometimes, ending an argument requires us to stop putting "coals on the fire". This is very difficult, especially when we are convinced we are right. Think about 2-3 conflicts you have had (or are having) in which you can stop feeding the flames.
What specific actions will you take as a result of studying this proverb? How can you surround yourself with people who will support you in this effort?

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